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Giving
It Up For Lent
A
Beginner’s Guide To Tease And Denial.
Lent is upon us and having used up the last
reserves of fats and meats on Shrove Tuesday, good Christians are fasting and
turning their backs on luxuries in the name of penitence. Self-denial during
lent seems to have transcended the Christian faith and become a cultural period
of moderation, inspiring people to give up vices which may be bad for them in
excess, such as chocolate or alcohol. The voluntary denial of pleasure seems to
be ingrained in human behaviour, people stick to bizarrely restrictive diets
when trying to lose weight, when merely cutting down on calories and going for
a jog in the morning would achieve more or less that same result. It is as if
we feel the self-imposed, often fairly torturous (remember the cabbage soup
diet anyone?) limitations will somehow make up for having over indulged in the
first place and magically alter the laws of biology so that the excess weight
will be cancelled out by the misery.
Perhaps in some cases people get a kick out
of self-denial too, enjoying the victory of willpower over temptation, having
the chance to feel good about themselves having given up sweeties for 40 days,
and maybe a little justified when they pig out on Easter eggs as soon as lent
is over. Delayed satisfaction can be a pleasure in itself, the first glass of
wine after 40 days abstinence is always going to hold a higher value and
therefore be perceived as more pleasurable than the glass of wine had with
dinner every day for the rest of the year. People like to feel they have earned
something, be it the Friday evening pint after a hard working week or the huge
Sunday roast after a period of dieting, the pleasure is always going to be
greater for the perception of it being a ‘reward’.
It comes as no surprise then that people
have managed to erotize denial. At first it seems like a bizarre concept, to
gain sexual pleasure from the denial or restriction of sexual pleasure. It
looks like an entirely counterproductive exercise, however it is a surprisingly
common fetish, enjoyed by women and men of all persuasions. Denial is such a
popular sexual theme in fact that there is a whole range of toys and devices
designed to help people keep their partner from touching where they have been
told not to, many selling for upwards of £100. There are multiple websites
devoted entirely to the discussion of sexual denial and ‘key-holding’- where
someone keeps the key to another person’s locked chastity device to prevent
them taking it off without permission and this ‘service’ is popular with
clients of professional dominatrices as well as between lovers.
Erotic sexual control takes place in many
ways. Some people like to play with ‘tease and denial’ or ‘tie and tease’ in
which one partner is deliberately turned on, touched, stroked and tormented,
sometimes while restrained, but denied the ultimate release until the
‘dominant’ partner decides orgasm has been delayed long enough. This is perhaps
the easiest aspect of denial to understand, there is pleasure to be had in the
torment, a bit like extended foreplay. The ‘Dominant’ partner pays a lot of
attention to the ‘submissive’ partner, spending a lot of time arousing them,
turning them on. If this foreplay goes on a little longer than is comfortable
it just adds to the pleasure when it comes. Being kept on the edge of orgasm
for a period of time can intensify the sensation of orgasm when it does happen.
The waiting, and perhaps begging and pleading can make the coveted release that
much sweeter.
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